You’re More Than Just Your Relationship Status

Or at least, you should try to be

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I officially changed my maiden name to my married name at work today. Immediately afterwards, I unsurprisingly received quite a number of messages from my colleagues acknowledging my name change and how excited they were for me — of course, it was a pretty lengthy and tedious process on my part, so I was honestly just glad that it was all over with.

I‘ve been married for just about three months now and as beautiful and wonderful as marriage has been so far, I have to say that I don’t necessarily feel any different. I don’t feel any different in my relationship and I don’t feel any different as a person. I don’t know if that’s a horrible thing to admit, but it is true.

Yes, I feel a deeper sense of stability, security, and above all and most importantly, an overwhelming happiness in the fact that I married the man whom I love with all of my heart and soul…but, I don’t feel like a drastically changed person just because my last name has changed.

And to tell you the truth, I’m quite relieved about that.

I’m extremely relieved that getting married felt as natural and effortless as it was. And I know that I’m still a rookie — only a mere three months in — and I’m sure the hard parts are yet to come, but for now…