Why Date Nights Are So Important
It will make all the difference in the long run in terms of maintaining and growing our relationships
Have you ever had those moments in life when you’re so busy for so many consecutive days, weeks, or months, that by the end of it, you just want to be left alone to do absolutely nothing? You’ve exhausted all of your social energies and you want to go into hibernation. That’s what it’s been like for me lately.
This past summer has been one of the busiest I’ve had in a while. As a matter of fact, this entire year has been busy. And as I’ve gotten older, I’ve noticed how plans are often ending up on my calendar far more in advance than they used to — which makes it much more difficult to be spontaneous about doing things.
So, with the overabundance of upcoming events, planned trips, and packed weekends, it’s left me with this longing for introversion. It’s made me want to de-prioritize the necessity for time with my friends and even my boyfriend.
My boyfriend moved in with me nearly two years ago and when he first moved in, we went out on date nights quite often, explored the city randomly, took a ton of weekend getaways, and did a lot together (just the two of us) in general.
But, since this year has been so much busier in comparison to last year, we’ve had a lot less down time to do that. So our days or nights that we have off, where we’ve had zero plans, have been extremely lazy. We end up staying home and just relaxing — which I’m not complaining about at all. But, those days have definitely been adding up.
The thing about living with your significant other is that it can become hard to differentiate between being at home together and actually going out and doing things together. Living with your significant other can sometimes be an excuse, or even a replacement, for going out on actual dates. And that shouldn’t be the case.
Spending a lot of inattentive, unengaged time together isn’t the same as spending a few hours being completely present and giving 100% undivided attention to your significant other.
After all, it’s about quality, not quantity. Just because you are physically present doesn’t necessarily mean that you’re mentally or emotionally present. A person can be at work, or at a party, or a student in class class, can be there, but not actually be engaged with what’s going on.
It’s especially easier to be distracted these days now that we have our smartphones to occupy our time. But, we have to remove those distractions to give our time to the people whom we’re with. We should make the effort to actually make time for the people that matter. And when it comes to our significant others (and even our close friends), we should always make time for date night — This goes for date night with our friends as well.
It will make all the difference in the long run in terms of maintaining and growing our relationships. We have to take the time to show people how much we value the time spent with them and that we’re willing to invest that time into the relationship.
So, choose your time wisely because we only have a finite amount of it in this life. Every minute counts.