Why I’m Keeping My New Year’s Goals Small in 2023

And why you should too

Lindsey (Lazarte) Carson


Photo by Markus Winkler on Unsplash

Another year is officially in the books and a new year has begun. For some people, the start of a new year is a really big deal, but for others, it’s just another day that we can cross off the calendar. However you choose to view it is completely up to you, but for me personally, I’ve fallen somewhere in the middle.

I used to be extremely nostalgic and sentimental towards the end of each year —constantly looking back at old photos, reflecting on major milestones, and documenting every exciting life event that happened.

Nowadays, not so much.

Instead, I now look back at those photos, milestones, and life events over a slightly longer span time rather than in yearly fragments. In doing so, I’ve come to recognize the bigger picture and reflect on how far I’ve come in the past several years instead of just a single year. And when you look at it that way, you’ll notice the significantly larger changes that happened over time as opposed to an annual recap. And that’s why I’m keeping my goals small for 2023 (and beyond).

Big changes are the sum of many small changes

When I look back at the past five years rather than just the previous year alone, I notice that the big changes that happened were the result of many small changes over time. The big life goals that I aspired towards weren’t achieved in a single year, but over the span of several years. It first starts with a few minor tweaks to your daily routine which eventually turn into transformative lifestyle habits. From there, it creates a larger ripple effect onto the path you’ll be paving for your future self.

You can’t expect something big to happen every single year

They say that big changes always come in threes — a new job, a new partner, a new home, and so on. Some years are much more eventful than others and these things happen all at once, but other years are sometimes meant for just staying still and being grounded. Not every year is going to be a transformative year, and that’s okay. There’s a time and place for everything and I’m a big believer in “everything happens for a reason” which means…



Lindsey (Lazarte) Carson

Writer, Runner, and New Mom. I write about work, relationships, culture, and life in general.