Which Friendships Will Survive the Pandemic?
Which of our friendships have taken the biggest toll due to COVID-19?
For many of us (if not, all of us), this pandemic has exposed a number of things about ourselves that we weren’t aware of before — our strengths, weaknesses, fears, doubts, and anxieties. However, the pandemic has not only exposed things that we didn’t know about ourselves, but also, things we didn’t know about the people around us, especially our own circle of friends.
When the lockdown was first imposed, the biggest sense of loss was that connection we would get from in-person, physical time spent with our friends, family, and colleagues. But, thanks to technology, we’ve been able to keep in touch and interact with our network without ever having to leave the comfort and safety of our own homes.
Then, after a while, the video-call fatigue finally began to set in. The zoom exhaustion was overwhelming and the virtual happy hours were no longer new and exciting (let alone sustainable) for the majority of us. We were missing the intimacy and level of bonding that would only come from being in-person with the people whom we were used to seeing regularly.
So, it brings me to wonder — what happens when you remove the ability to spend quality time with your network in-person?
Well, inevitably, some relationships begin to deteriorate.
It’s only natural that as we go on in life, certain things begin to take priority over others. Friendships often take the biggest toll from those priorities. All that’s really needed is a simple catalyst. And across the globe, COVID-19 was exactly that catalyst.
As important as our friendships are to us, our health, our family, and our family’s health becomes even more important in situations like the one we’re in. Choosing family and health over our friends becomes an instinctual decision. And ultimately, the friends who respect, understand, and accommodate that decision are the ones that have and will continue to stick by our side even after this pandemic is over.
The friendships that survive, not only post-pandemic, but in life as a whole, are the ones that will stay in touch regardless of the physical time spent together. The ones that survive are the ones that have survived tragedies before. The ones that survives are the ones know that you’ll still be there at the end of the day when they really need you. It’s the ones that you know will be there for you when you need them.
This year, COVID-19 aside, has shed light on many of the things we didn’t want to see — things we knew were true, but didn’t want to face.
The face of change.
Though, as tragic and difficult as this year has been, it’s important for us to still try to see any silver linings wherever we can. Though we mourn the people and things that we’ve lost, we have to also try to see what’s been gained.
We have to realize the strength that we have for surviving these troubling times. We have to realize the strength in the people around us as well. At the end of the day, we have to acknowledge how much has survived despite what’s been lost and be hopeful for better days.