Perhaps one of the things that people can be most resistant to in life is change. As humans, we delight in comfort and security. The fear of change, the fear of the unknown, is a fear that is nothing short of common amongst all of us. And behind that fear of change also lies the fear of rejection. Among the most basic human needs, according to Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs, is the need for love and belonging. Being rejected from love and belonging can cause trauma. It cuts deep like a knife, leaving scars that can often be felt throughout the course of our lives. And so, we do anything we can to avoid that feeling.
We make decisions that are safe. We stay in our comfort zones and stick to what we know so that we don’t get hurt. However, with keeping that mindset, we then forget that some of the very things that we take such comfort in were actually once things that may have frightened at some point earlier on — the things that now make us feel the most secure may have been one of the most drastic changes that we’ve ever made. We forget that we once embraced change before it had scarred us. And in life, we tend to take less risks as we get older.
We become so ingrained in our ways and get so used to our habits that we fall into a pattern that leaves us static and content. But, we can’t stay in that place forever. We can’t continue to do the same things just because it’s convenient or comfortable. We can’t turn away from opportunities that may be for the better. We can’t always settle for what’s normal just because that’s all that we know — and quite frankly, we have to realize that change is just inevitable. It happens whether we like it or not, so we might as well embrace it.
Yes, we can continue to like what we know we like. We can continue to dislike what we know we dislike. But, we shouldn’t dislike something just because we’ve never it tried before. We can’t be afraid of trying something different just because we’re afraid of the outcome. If we refrain from taking risks in life, we could be shutting the door to something that we may love — we could be shutting the door on love itself.
We have to remember that what’s normal to us now was once something that was new to us before.
When something new becomes something normal, we have to remember that we were brave enough to take that risk to make that happen. We have to be grateful for that risk we took and remind ourselves that great risks can produce great opportunities for us in the future. Even if we don’t like the outcome, even if we fail, we can at least say that we tried. We may not always be able to control the outcome, but we can control all the next steps that follow. So, take that leap of faith and remember that we can always create a new normal.