What You Should Really Be Looking for in a Lasting Relationship

You have to know that despite everything, you have a true friend — not just a companion or a lover

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You should be looking for your best friend

Friendship is the strongest kind of love that anyone can ask for. Liking someone for superficial traits such as the way they look or the way they dress or liking them for their hobbies or the fact that they have a good job can only take you so far in the relationship. Real, lasting relationships are built on a strong foundation of friendship and trust. You have to know that despite everything, you have a true friend — not just a companion or a lover.

Friends can talk to each other about anything

Close your eyes and take a minute to think about your best friends — the ones whom you can waste hours talking with on the phone or hanging out with until the sun comes up. Your friends, your best friends, are the ones that you can never really run out of things to talk about with. You can easily tell them anything, anytime, anywhere and just know that they’ll be there to listen to you. That’s a quality that you should have in a romantic partner as well — someone who will not only talk, but also listen whenever you need them to.

Friends will always show up for you

Your friends will always have your back no matter what. They’ll always be there for you and they’ll always show up for you whenever you need them. And needless to say, your partner should be able to do the same thing — not just because they’re your partner, but because they’re your friend too. Your partner should support and be there for you the same way that your friends would because that’s what friends are for.

Friends don’t care about what other people think of you

Your friends are your friends because they like you for exactly who you are. They accept you fully and they don’t judge you even if you’re doing something stupid or crazy — well, they might judge a little, but they won’t love you any less. They accept you and your flaws because they understand you to your very core. Your partner should be the same way. Your partner shouldn’t care about what other people think of you and they shouldn’t try to change you. They love you as you are.

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