What I Wish I Had Figured Out While I Was in College
I wish I had figured out the moves before I started the dance
I’m not usually one to dwell on the past. I don’t typically linger on past decisions or regret things that I’ve done in the past. I realize that, as humans, we are inevitable to making mistakes often…and many of them of them too.
I realize that I myself have made many mistakes in the past and though I’m not necessarily proud of them, I’m also not ashamed of them either. I know that mistakes are made so that we can learn from them. And I firmly stand on the belief that everything happens for a reason. I also know that there is probably a large group of people who don’t really agree. But, that’s besides the point.
Growing up, I’ve always had the idea instilled in my head that my all of my post-graduate decisions, both in my career and in my life, were linear. I was under the impression that life was much like climbing the corporate ladder; climbing one rung after the other until you’ve reached the end.
This narrative was told to us long before we even had a chance to understand it.
In school, you learn, you take tests, get passing grades, then advance to the next grade. Then, after school you graduate, you get a job, get married, buy a house, have kids, provide for your family, and continue on with life — A series of choices that were instructed to us by society, in this particular order.
Instead, I learned that life was more like a dance; An ongoing series of movements. It’s two steps forward, then two steps back. But, you could also take side steps, change your moves, and spin in circles as well. And that’s exactly what my life has been a lot like recently — Spinning around in circles to a song that feels like it won’t ever end.
Again, I’m not one who usually dwell on the pasts, however when I look back in hindsight, there is some part of me that wishes my life really were more like climbing the ladder rather than spinning in circles. There’s some part of me that wishes I could climb rungs that were in a particular order. This is something that I wish I figured out while I was in college.
I wish I had figured out the moves before I started the dance.
I wish I had tried harder to figure out my path rather than put it off to figure out along the way. I wish I knew that I could have chosen my own path. I wish I had taken the time to invest in the things that I was passionate about rather than do exactly what people said would make me successful. I was I had figured out exactly what I was passionate about in the first place.
I wish I had known just how important my time in college was to take advantage of this time to learn about the things that intrigued me. I wish I realized how much I’d be paying for it later down the road. I wish I started sooner.
“If you don’t know where you are going, any road will get you there.”
But, it doesn’t matter anymore now because like I said earlier — Mistakes are made so that we can learn from them.
So, this is me learning from them. This is me realizing the things that I wish I had realized while I was in college. This is me taking action now that I realize what I should have learned before.
This is where I begin.