The Pivotal Moment When We Become a Parent to Our Parents

We all reach this moment at different stages in our lives where we become a parent to our own parents

Lindsey (Lazarte) Carson


Photo by Xavier Mouton Photographie on Unsplash

The perks of being young is that you don’t have to be the one to assume responsibility at the end of the day. You can go about life, carefree and reckless, without the fear of consequences because you know that you have grown ups to lean on — to protect you, to care for you, and to keep you out of harm’s way.

But, growing old is a tricky thing. One on hand, you’ve matured and gained wisdom from your younger years. And you’ve (hopefully) had a wealth of life experiences that have shaped and transformed you into the person you are now.

Then, on the other hand, as you continue to progress further into old age, you also begin to take a backseat from some of the action. Younger generations arise and you sit back and watch as they ascend into adulthood just as you once did.

Of course, what do I know of old age? I’ve only just grazed a mere three decades.

Well, what I do know — or at least what I think I know based on recent personal events — is that we all eventually reach a certain level of adulthood where our childlike innocence becomes completely shattered. Our skin hardens in a way that’s irreversible.

It may be due to a tragedy such as a death or heart break, but whatever that is moment, there’s no turning back. For me, that moment happened at the age of thirty, right after my Dad died.

After my Dad died, my childlike innocence died with him.

I never realized how quickly the rug can be pulled from underneath you when something so devastating happens. I had never imagined that the death of a parent would become a reality so soon in my life. The thought hadn’t even crossed my mind. I never thought about life after losing a parent because it seemed so distant.



Lindsey (Lazarte) Carson

Writer, Runner, and New Mom. I write about work, relationships, culture, and life in general.