The Peculiarity of Making Friends at Work

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As a whole, I consider myself to be a generally friendly and outgoing person. If someone were to ask me whether I affiliated myself as more of an extrovert or an introvert, I would immediately say extrovert, without any hesitation — And for the most part, if you were to ask my closest peers, they would likely reply with the same response.

When it comes down to my career and choosing a job that I’m interviewing for, one of the things that I care most about and take into serious consideration is work culture. To be more specific and quite blunt, I care about the people.

I care about the overall camaraderie and friendliness of the people that I’d be potentially working with. At the end of the day, it’s the people within an organization that make it what it is, right?

Having hard-working, dedicated, and intelligent employees is essential to any company, but having hard-working, dedicated, and intelligent employees that actually get along with each other and work well together is what really puts the cherry on top of the cake — At least, thats how I view it from my perspective.

For me, work friendships are something that I not only hope for, but also strive for. I personally believe that your coworkers should not only be your greatest resources, but your strongest allies as well.

After all, you spend most of your time with your coworkers for a majority of the week, maybe even collectively more than your friends, your family, and even your spouse. That being said, your coworkers should not just be tolerable, but also pleasant to be around.

However, as many of us may know, that’s not always the case.

Too many times do we get into situations where we leave a job specifically because of an internal conflict with another co-worker or even your boss. It may be due to opposing work styles, communication, or just a friction of personalities.

Whatever the case may be, it can come down to one single person that causes an issue for us in the workplace. This can make it extremely difficult for our work mentality and overall state of mind.

Essentially, our coworkers can make or break our work experience.

Unfortunately, though as common of a problem as it is, it’s not necessarily a quick fix. Often times it’s unavoidable and the ultimate solution is just to leave.

It’s sad to say, but we just don’t live in a world where everyone always gets along with each other all the time.

The thing is, making friends at work is a peculiar thing.

You’d think that dealing with the whole “high school cafeteria” drama would pass after our teen years, but it doesn’t. In fact, I’d say that it continues throughout our lives and one of the places that we encounter this situation the most is within the workplace.

Making friends at work can be tricky. As we get older, it only becomes more difficult and also drops further down on our list of things to check off when looking for a job. In many cases, people aren’t even considering making friends at work as a significant part of their agenda.

For the most part, people primarily care about salary, benefits, and the role of the job itself. Making friends is usually just a bonus, if that even happens.

In the twelve years that I’ve been able to work, I’ve had some coworkers that I’m proud to have had the pleasure of calling my friends — That hasn’t always been the case though.

Unfortunately, I have been in work settings where I left a job specifically because I wasn’t getting along with some of the people on my team.

I know that may sound a bit childish, but for those who are a little more on the sensitive side like me, feeling alone and having no one to talk to at work can be very isolating.

Yes, there were times that I just had to suck it up, but it was still discouraging nonetheless. It made it hard to want to physically be there.

Making friends at work, as peculiar and tricky as it may be, is an important part of being in the workplace. Though it may not necessarily be as important for some people, it does drastically change your work experience.

Just because we’ve grown up and left school doesn’t mean we need to write off the idea of making new friends. Yes, it does get harder to make new friends as an adult, but it’s not impossible.

There were a few times when I had given up on the idea, where I thought I had made all the real friends I could have possibly met in my life, but I know now that I shouldn’t lose hope. You never know who could cross your path.

In life, you’re never too old to try something new and when it comes to making friends, well, you can never have enough no matter what stage of life you’re in.

Thanks for reading! If you enjoyed this article, check out, “Should We Dress Better at Work to Be Taken More Seriously?”

Writer, Runner, and Plant Mom based in Brooklyn, New York. I write about writing and life in general.

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