Have you ever witnessed an argument between two people where they were just cutting off each other’s sentences back and forth?
Did you think they were such fools for not stopping to let the other one speak?
And did you notice how much they truly weren’t listening to one another, but instead just trying to get their own point across?
There’s a reason why a moderator is involved in a sanctioned debate. There’s a purpose for enforcing that only one person speak at a time.
It’s so that each party can be given the equal opportunity to present their argument.
It’s to restrain the other person from interrupting and allowing them to actually listen.
Sometimes, I think that we like to hear the sound of our own voice so much that we forget to hear the voices of others — The ones that need to be heard.
I’ve been speaking significantly less than usual for quite some time now. Last Fall, I left a job where I had a ton of friends and was always making conversation with someone. I always had someone to tell the details of my weekend, my upcoming vacation plans, my personal life.
Since leaving that job, for some reason I’ve had a really hard time making new friends at my new jobs. Consequently, I’ve been speaking much less to people and refraining from opening up as much.
This has been very difficult for because, well, I love to talk.
However, since I’ve been speaking less, my perception has changed. I’ve gotten a chance to hear what other people have to say.
The thing is, when you speak less, you hear more — You listen more. You take in more. You observe more. You understand more. The way you think starts to change.
Since then, I’ve been writing a whole lot more because I actually have a whole lot that has yet to be said.
I’ve never been good at meditating — It makes me stir crazy. I’m not good at keeping still or being silent. So, writing has been somewhat of an alternative outlet for me in life because I can be as loud as I want with my words without actually making any noise.
And lately, I’ve noticed that the less I’ve been speaking, the more I’ve been writing.
Ironically, the whole “not speaking to people” thing has been quite advantageous for me. It’s given me perspective.
I’m not saying that you need to stop speaking to people in order to get the creative juices flowing. But, I can say that we should take more time to be quiet, listen, and let your thoughts just sit and marinade with you — Amazing things can come out of it.
We can get so much inspiration from other people and we don’t even realize it. All it takes is just sitting and listening. You’d be surprised at how much you can learn when you do.