The Importance of Physically Showing up for Your Friends
Texts, facebook comments, and instagram likes aren’t enough anymore
We’re in a day and age where “being present” really just means being visible to our network via social media.
Social media has changed the nature of our relationships and in particular, it has changed the nature of our friendships. Having the ability to be transparent about our every day lives makes it easier for our peers to know what’s going on on a day to day basis.
However, this also makes it easier for us to leave ourselves out of the equation. It leaves out the “inconvenience” of actually picking up the phone and telling our friends about what’s going on in our lives or asking how they’re doing. Then, if enough time has passed, we might send them a simple text saying, “I miss you” instead of actually making plans to see each other.
Of course, I’m not leaving myself out of the equation in this scenario. I’d be a hypocrite to say that I haven’t gone long periods of time without reaching out to my friends.
But, the truth is, we’ve gotten lazy.
We’ve gotten lazy in our friendships and we’ve gotten lazy in our efforts to keep them in tact. We’ve gotten lazy with making plans and keeping in touch.
We’ve allowed social media to take the role of how we keep tabs on people and getting updates on our friends. We’ve removed ourselves from having the responsibility to connect in person and that’s not okay. We need to do better.
We need to physically show up for our friends rather than let our online presence do the job.
Being there for someone is more than just “being there in spirit”. Actions, and our physical presence, speak louder than words.
If you’re not taking the time to see the people that you care about, then you are essentially telling them that they’re not very high on your priorities list.
It’s completely understandable that life gets busy, our schedules become overwhelming, and sometimes we really do just need to rest and lay low sometimes — But, there is always time for our friends. There is always time that we can set aside and plan for.
Friendships, and relationships in general, are a two- way street. Both parties are involved in keeping in touch. Though, when the efforts are lacking from both sides, the friendship begins to dwindle.
If we care about the friendships in our lives, and if we want them to last, then we need to be there to let them know that.
Texts, facebook comments, and instagram likes aren’t enough anymore. How we interact with our friends online isn’t a valid representation of how seriously we take those relationships.
What matters is your physical presence, not the one you pose online.