The Harsh Realities of Getting Older

Things that have recently come to my attention upon entering my “late twenties”

Photo by Abigail Faith on Unsplash

Your body doesn’t react the same way that it used to.

I wouldn’t say that I necessarily feel weaker than I did when I was younger. Instead, I’d say that I just have to be a little more mindful of how I use my body and what I put into it.

Not everyone makes it to your future.

The amount of friends that I’ve gained and lost over the years is an overwhelming number to count —I’ve lived in seven different apartments with quite a large number of roommates since 2009. Since 2012, I’ve worked at six different companies outside of college alone. Prior to my boyfriend, I’ve attempted and failed at dating more times than I’m willing to admit.

You’re going to fail many more times than you actually succeed.

The number of times that I’ve failed in work, in relationships, in personal goals, and in life in general is almost too depressing of a number to say aloud — And frankly, I don’t even want to try to count them.

You have to love yourself FIRST.

For a while, I really struggled with self-love. I sought after it through the validation of work, friends, relationships, even running. I measured my worth based on all of these things, but what I never realized was that it doesn’t really matter what anyone else thinks of you — What matters is what you think of yourself.

“We accept the love we think we deserve.” — Stephen Chbosky

Probably the harshest reality of them all — Knowing my parents are getting older too.

My mortality is still something that I have yet to fully grasp. However, what I have become fully aware of is the mortality of my family members and how much that scares the complete shit out of me.

“I know not all that may be coming, but be it what it will, I’ll go to it laughing.” — Herman Melville

Writer, Runner, and Plant Mom based in Brooklyn, New York. I write about writing and life in general.

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