“Fake it until you make it”
I’ve always been troubled by this seemingly deceptive piece of advice.
In literal translation, it’s urging one to pretend like everything is okay — like you know what you’re doing — until it actually happens.
But, is appearing to be confident the same as feeling confident?
Is pretending that everything is okay the same as things actually being okay?
After all, if you can convince others that everything is okay, and that you are a confident person, then surely you can convince yourself of the same, right?
There’s no doubt that if you feel crappy on the inside, it will eventually seep through and affect how you appear on the outside.
Fashion, clothing, and accessory brands (that being said, all brands) thrive off of the mission of projecting a message to consumers that they will look and feel good by just purchasing their products.
Then again, not everyone who looks good on the outside is equally as happy on the inside — We’re learning that more and more as celebrities and those in the limelight such as internet-famous individuals are exposing the truth about their struggles with mental health and depression.
So, looking good on the outside is actually not necessarily the same as feeling good on the outside.
Or take Salespeople for example.
I wouldn’t necessarily say that they’re always lying to you — Maybe sometimes it’s just a mere stretch of the truth.
Then again, think about the whole purpose of their job — It’s to sell you things.
Similar to the brands who are marketing you a product, salespeople are also trying to convince you that you need to buy a certain product or offer, except salespeople are the ones who are actually closing the deal.
Their job is to make something sound so good, that you can’t say no.
So, of course, they are going to say or do anything in order to make that happen. Yet another case of, “fake it until you make it”.
For me personally, I’m a terrible liar.
I would never be a good salesperson — I’m extremely transparent, blunt, and stern. And I can barely keep a secret.
Sometimes, I also may not come off as the warmest person in the world (depending on my mood), however I will always tell you how things really are in the simplest of terms — I’ll always give you the real face value.
But, apparently this isn’t always the best way of handling things.
You see, happiness and human emotion is a delicate thing.
And confidence, especially, can be a difficult thing to come around.
In the end, we’re all just trying to make it through the day, through the week, through the year, and through our lives, in the best way possible.
After all, who wants to go about their life being miserable day-in and day-out? (Though, there are people like that, I’m sure of it).
We’re all alike in the sense that we all have our bad days and we don’t necessarily want the world to see that.
So, are we just living in a world full of fakers and liars?
Maybe so. However, the intention is not to be deceptive. Sometimes, the intention is to actually make things better — for ourselves and for those around us.
If we all went through life acting like a curmudgeon or constantly thinking of the most dire and negative of consequences, it would be a pretty grim world.
However, we also can’t go around being naive or desensitized to the state of our lives or the lives around us either.
Instead, maybe there are times when you just have to “fake it until you make it” just to get by.
In those times, it’s okay because we have to do what we have to do in order to attain our own version of happiness.
Maybe it’s just our way of trying to actually be okay.