Is “Fake it until you make it” Actually Good Advice?

Lindsey (Lazarte) Carson
3 min readSep 13, 2018
“woman leaning on wall while looking sideward” by Marcos Amaral on Unsplash

“Fake it until you make it”

I’ve always been troubled by this seemingly deceptive piece of advice.

In literal translation, it’s urging one to pretend like everything is okay — like you know what you’re doing — until it actually happens.

But, is appearing to be confident the same as feeling confident?

Is pretending that everything is okay the same as things actually being okay?

After all, if you can convince others that everything is okay, and that you are a confident person, then surely you can convince yourself of the same, right?

There’s no doubt that if you feel crappy on the inside, it will eventually seep through and affect how you appear on the outside.

Fashion, clothing, and accessory brands (that being said, all brands) thrive off of the mission of projecting a message to consumers that they will look and feel good by just purchasing their products.

Then again, not everyone who looks good on the outside is equally as happy on the inside — We’re learning that more and more as celebrities and those in the limelight such as internet-famous individuals are exposing the…

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Lindsey (Lazarte) Carson

Writer, Runner, Mother. I write about work, relationships, culture, and life in general.