Before I begin, let me just preface this by saying that I myself am 100% guilty of doing this exact thing that I am advising you readers not to do — Which is why this is coming to you from first-hand experience.
Whenever we are faced with a difficult situation that we don’t like, one of the first things that we like do is complain about how miserable we are and how much we hate the thing that we are doing.
In this current day and age, we don’t even need a specific person to tell our problems to — We have social media for that.
However, if you yourself have made a commitment to do something, if you’ve made a decision to fully immerse yourself in something, then you are in no place to complain about it along the way.
It’s always much easier to verbally express how frustrated we are rather than just working through it.
We’d much rather hit up the bar, have a drink, and chat about how difficult things are, which is completely fine — We all need to blow off steam once in a while.
It does however become a problem if we never stop to realize that all of the time and energy that we put into complaining could instead be re-directed towards working to figure out ways to make things less difficult and less frustrating for ourselves.
After all, if there’s a will, there’s a way.
In a sense, complaining is just dragging out a problem instead of actually solving it.
Complaining is form of procrastination. Deep down somewhere, we know that we can make things work and we know that we will make it through.
We also know how much harder it is to actually take action to make that happen rather than simply talk about it.
But, we all have choices. Nobody forced you to make the decisions that you made in your life. And nobody is forcing you to do anything now.
Complaining doesn’t make things any easier.
In fact, if anything, it makes things ten times worse.
As the saying goes, “misery loves company”.
We think that complaining is a form of self-soothing, but instead it’s just bringing on more misery.
For me right now, I’m in the midst of training for a marathon that’s taking place next month and I’m finding that the days where I’ve complained the most are the the days that ended up being the most unpleasant.
I know it’s cliché advice to give, but sometimes you really do just need to have a positive mental attitude even if you really don’t want to.
Attitude is everything.
Your attitude towards a situation is really what makes or breaks the experience.
Think about why you said ‘yes’ in the first place.
When the going gets tough, we often lose sight of why we even made the decision to do something in the first place.
Try to bring yourself back to the root of what led you to where you are.
Along the way, sometimes we just lose a bit of our faith and motivation. Sometimes, we just need to re-ignite the flame and remember what our driving force is.
We all get a little lost, and that’s okay.
And if it turns out that we do want to quit, then so be it — Just think about it first.
As mentioned, I personally often complain about the things in my life that I’m frustrated about.
In fact, growing up that was one of my biggest flaws — A majority of the advice that my Mom gave me was to stop complaining about everything all the time.
I didn’t realize until later on how valuable that piece of advice would be down the road.
Eventually I learned that the choices I make are my own.
At the end of the day, we just have to suck it up and power through.