Do You Really Want To Be Better Than You Are Right Now?

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We’re human. We don’t get everything right on the first try. We make mistakes. And sometimes, we make the same mistakes multiple times. In time, though, we eventually learn from our mistakes so that we can do better next time; so that we can be better.

There’s a ton of reading material out there, both in print and online, on the topics of self-improvement, personal development, personal growth, and so on— And I personally write about these particular topics quite often.

Whenever we are feeling like we are stuck, stagnant, hit a plateau or have lost motivation, many of us tend to seek out advice on these topics in order to somehow kickstart the process of “working on ourselves”.

However, often times we read something, and although we thoroughly enjoyed or found it helpful or even took away some key points that we intend to incorporate into our life, we don’t always follow through to get to the part where we actually become better than we were before.

Often times, we just revert to the same state that we were in before or we never change at all.

Take New Year’s resolutions for example — We write them down and eagerly attempt to stay on track, but many of us either give up by the end of January or forget about them completely. For some of us, we’d be lucky to even make it halfway through the year with having still upheld them.

But again, we are only human and we are creatures of habit. Sometimes, the act of changing and bettering ourselves seems like too daunting of a task for us to want to strive for.

Sometimes, we’ll just settle for what is. And sometimes, we’re even scared of what would happen if we do change; if we actually do become better than who we were before.

“Our deepest fear is not that we are weak. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.” — Marianne Williamson

If your intentions are to truly, genuinely to better yourself, you need to ask yourself this question —

Do you really want to be better than you are right now?

If your answer is yes, then that’s a good start. Profess it to yourself and say it with conviction.

Then, comes the hard part — the act of actually creating change in your life and in order to create change, you have to get a little uncomfortable by doing the following things…

Stop making excuses.

Whatever is standing in your way, find a way around it or tackle it head-on. If something is holding you back, then find a way to lighten the load and carry it with you.

Making excuses will never get you anywhere and no matter how much you justify your reasons, it won’t change your situation. So stop making excuses and find the path to ‘yes’.

Set goals.

One of the major themes or topics that I’ve been writing about lately has been about goals and how to achieve them.

I’ve always been a very competitive person, but as I got older, I noticed that it was no longer other people whom I was competing against — I started realizing that I was competing with myself (or the former version of myself). I wanted to challenge the person I was before and prove to myself that I can change, that I can be better.

When it comes to goal-setting, it’s more than just knowing them in the back of your mind for safe-keeping. You have to also hold yourself accountable. And one of the ways to do that is by writing them down.

Another way is to have someone, maybe a close friend or family member, who can hold you accountable, champion you, and push you to keep going.

Do whatever it takes.

As we all know, change is hard. We don’t tend to enjoy leaving our comfort zone, but unfortunately, that’s what you have to do in order to grow.

Diamonds don’t come out of the earth looking the way that they do. They are formed under blistering temperatures and extreme pressure. The same applies to people and life. — We have to go through extraordinary lengths in order to come out with extraordinary results. We never come out of a situation or experience looking the same way we did when we entered it.

At the end of the day, if you want to truly be better, you have to put in the work. You have to claim it, act on it, and most of all, you have to believe in yourself.

It won’t be easy, but it will be worth it.

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Part-time Writer & Full-time Digital Advertising Expert in Queens, New York. Avid runner & Plant Mom. I write about writing and life. lindseylazarte.com

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