Dating a Minority Doesn’t Make You Any Less White
I had a conversation with a colleague recently and we stumbled upon talking about our boyfriends — For the record, she’s White and in past conversations, she had mentioned the fact that her boyfriend is Hispanic. As I was speaking with her this time around, I realized that the more she talked about him, the more I couldn’t help but notice how she emphasized that he’s Hispanic, then positioned herself to almost know what it’s like to be Hispanic — simply because her boyfriend is.
Now, I’m not Hispanic and of course I could have been completely over-speculating, but it made me wonder how many other people who are in bi-racial relationships feel like they too can count themselves as part of whatever race their significant other is a part of. It even made me wonder if my own boyfriend thinks that way.
Being in a bi-racial relationship, I often try my best to explain my position towards a certain subject to my boyfriend. I often spend a decent amount of time validating reasons for why I feel the way I feel about certain things or why I have a certain viewpoint because of my race.
It’s because I want to try to help him understand the way that someone else who’s a minority might view things when it comes down to the matter of race. I want him to understand what it’s like to look at things through a different…
