I used to be really bad at being alone. I hated it. It made me uncomfortable. It made me feel like people were judging me — like I was some kind of loser or something.
I used to hate doing things alone and I used to hated going to places alone. I had a really hard time just being by myself. It just felt lonely to me. I didn’t know how to be by myself.
Take this for example…
I was one of those people in high school who was terrible at being single. And whenever I was single, I was usually dating someone or at least talking to someone.
I didn’t like not being attached to another person. I was a relationship person — And I still am, of course, being that I am currently in one.
But, I grew up a lot over the years.
As I got older, I started learning those hard life lessons about being on your own and figuring out how to be an emotionally strong person when I had no one else to support me.
I used to rely heavily on my network of people to keep me afloat — My family, my friends, my co-workers, my significant other. I got so used to knowing that someone would always be there to catch me when I fell. And for the most part, they did and they still do.
But, I had to come to the realization that my support system couldn’t always be there for me (Plus, that’s also a lot of pressure to put on people).
So, I started learning how to be good at being alone. I learned how to stand on my own two feet.
I was in situations where I had no choice. I went into periods of time when I would hardly speak to anybody. And I swore off dating when I was most recently single because I knew that I wanted the real deal, not just the company of another person.
And doing all of these things was a huge turning point for me.
I became a stronger person, a better person. I felt at peace with myself. I felt happy.
I finally became comfortable with being alone because I finally came to understand that it didn’t matter what people thought of me if I were by myself. I came to understand that it’s okay to be alone sometimes.
I came to understand that as long as I was okay with myself, then I would be okay by myself.
You see, the thing we have to remember is this —
Being alone doesn’t necessarily mean that someone is lonely and being lonely doesn’t necessarily mean that someone is alone.
At the end of the day, we will all walk our own path in life. And just know that we’re all together in that.