Evaluating our own personal level of success can be an intimidating task. We all have different versions of what success looks like and it doesn’t necessarily look the same as the person next to us.
Sometimes, we measure success in comparison to the success of our friends and family — Or sometimes we even use their versions of success as a reference for what we think our lives should look like.
And other times, we are even quick to judge those around us based on where they are in their own life.
But, instead of comparing and contrasting based on others’ version of success, what we should really be doing is looking inward and asking ourselves this question —
Ask yourself— Are YOU where YOU want to be in your life?
Instead of pointing the finger at others and judging those around us, ask yourself this question first — And be completely honest with yourself.
Are you making the time to do the things that you love? Are you making the time to be with the people you love?
Are you where you want to be mentally? Are you where you want to be physically?
Are you where you want to be in your career? Are you where you want to be in your relationship?
I know these are a lot of questions to ask, and it could be extremely overwhelming, but have you ever really asked yourself these questions before?
The reason why it’s important to ask yourself these questions is because these are some of the things that affect our overall level of happiness in life.
These are some of the things that guide the decisions that we make on a daily basis.
These are things that we value and the things that are our driving forces.
If your answer is ‘no’ to most of these questions, then what are you doing to change that?
Instead of complaining about your situation and your circumstances, what are you doing to take matters into your own hands?
Have you ever pictured what you would want your life to look like instead?
Have you ever taken the time to think about what you should be doing to get to where you want to be?
Have you identified the things that are holding you back from becoming who you want to be?
If you haven’t done any of these things, then it’s time to start.
The first step is always the hardest, but after a little while, you’ll finally start to see the progress and eventually, you’ll see just how far you have come.
I know I’m not perfect.
I myself don’t have all of these questions answered and most of the time, it’s difficult for me to even try. I’m honestly afraid to.
But, as I’ve mentioned in past articles, I write articles similar to this one when I’m personally in need of a wakeup call — I write them when I’m in need of the advice the most (And I reckon there are people who are on the same page as me. Or at least, I hope).
It’s difficult to really take a look in the mirror and say to yourself, “I’m not where I want to be” — But just like coming to terms with grief, or a mistake, or an addiction, or fear, the first thing that we must do is admit that it’s there.
Then, we can tackle it head-on.
We can’t solve a problem if we don’t know what the problem is. So, take time to think about it. Once you’ve done that, you can start to navigate your way towards finding a solution.
“Go confidently in the direction of your dreams! Live the life you’ve imagined” — Henry David Thoreau