It’s not for them anyways

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I used to pass along nearly every rough draft of my articles to my family and friends so that they can read it all before I published or submitted them.

I figured if they liked it, then other people would like it to too, right?

And I figured that they would give me their honest opinion because they wouldn’t be afraid to hurt my feelings since they’re close to me.

But, whenever I passed it onto them, then I’d have to wait for them to actually read it and give me their feedback which sometimes took a little longer than anticipated. …


You just have to have faith and do whatever it takes to make it work

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When my husband and I started dating (for the zillionth time), our relationship was rekindled when we were living in two different states, nearly three thousand miles away from one another.

At first, it came as no surprise that many people had their reservations. There was a great deal of doubt from some friends and even a few family members that this was a wise decision on my part. Yet, despite the reservations and doubts, I pursued what I knew I wanted. And in the end, it was the best decision that I ever made. …


Because reading and writing is a shared experience

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A fellow Writer on Medium responded to one of my articles recently and sparked an interesting topic about whether we should be writing for ourselves or writing for our readers. She explained that making money didn’t matter to her much as long as she wrote about things that she was genuinely passionate about — and I do agree with that notion.

I agree that it’s way more exciting to write about things that you actually enjoy writing about rather than writing about topics that don’t necessarily intrigue you. …


The fear of losing myself in becoming a Mom

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I’m not a Mom yet and frankly, I’m nowhere near becoming a Mom. But, I do eventually want to become a Mom and I truly look forward to that day whenever it comes. When it does, I just hope that I’m ready for it — or at least, as ready as I can be.

The reason why I’m even bringing this up is because I recently got married about two months ago now, so this topic is one that’s been coming up a little more frequently. …


All you need is a little faith and a lot of perseverance

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(Photo: Hyde Photography)

My husband and I had zero plans and zero intentions of getting married this year. When we got engaged last December, we decided to take our time setting a wedding date so we could just enjoy being engaged for a little while.

Prior to the pandemic, we were only casually perusing wedding venues and had just barely started piecing together loose ideas of what we wanted our wedding to look like — nothing had been officially booked and nothing had been confirmed.

Then, when COVID-19 happened and all the weddings that we were invited to this year started getting rescheduled or canceled, we were thankful that we hadn’t locked anything in yet. …


Working more efficiently, making better use of your time, and learning how to compartmentalize and automate certain tasks

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A few weeks ago, I was on a Zoom call with my friends (who also happen to be former coworkers). Every time we’re on Zoom together, we follow a a similar pattern in conversation.

We start out by catching up on what’s new in our lives, then eventually move onto talking about work (which usually takes up a large chunk of the time). The flow of the conversation is generally always the same, but the thing that still always shocks me is when we talk about work and I learn how late they both tend to work until.

Even before COVID-19, I’ve always had this one internal rule: “Leave work at work”. I rarely stayed at the office past seven o’clock because I liked to get home early enough to sit down for dinner with my husband, to unwind, and maybe even squeeze in a work out — of course, many of us now literally live in our workplace, so that complicates things. But, even being at home now, I still abide by that same rule of “leave work at work”.


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I first joined Medium in 2013 when the platform was only starting to emerge. For me, it was honestly just fun to be able to publish somewhere that wasn’t on my own measly blog. It was nice to know that there was a larger potential for more people to actually read the things I wrote.

Eventually, I became a paid Medium member about two and a half years ago. This slightly changed my mindset because money was now factored into the equation.

At first, it didn’t necessarily change anything — it didn’t affect how I wrote, what I wrote about, or how often I published. Just knowing that I had the potential to make a few extra bucks was merely an added perk. That was up until I made my first “big bucks” on Medium — and when I say “big”, I mean over one hundred dollars. …


Instead, it did quite the opposite

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Yesterday, I published my first article on Medium in a whole month. In fact, I realize now that I’ve only published one article in total last month.

Prior to that, I was much more consistent.

I always had at least one draft that I was working on and I would always be actively thinking of topics that would make for a compelling piece. However, recently I’ve had a hard time bringing myself to sit down and write anything.

I’ve found it difficult to find the motivation to even want to write. …


At the end of the day, we’ll each find our own version of success at the time that’s right for us

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I used to read a lot of those advice-centric articles along the lines of “30 Things You Should Do Before Turning 30” or “30 Places to Visit Before Turning 30”.

Those articles always really annoyed me.

They annoyed me because they put so much pressure on checking off boxes that may not necessarily be available to us at that exact moment in our lives.

I’m especially annoyed by these articles now that I myself am quickly approaching that actual age and am realizing how difficult (and often unrealistic) those to-do lists actually are.

In about a month and a half, I’ll be turning thirty — which I’m finding hard to believe given the fact that cashiers still ask for my ID when buying a lottery ticket (yes, a lottery ticket). …


Don’t let it go, don’t feel guilty for having it, and don’t let anyone take it away

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Photo by Hyde Photography

To say that this year has been a rollercoaster ride is a complete understatement — this year been unpredictable, uncomfortable, heartbreaking, and traumatic.

Yet, despite all of the ongoing grief that’s been surrounding all of us over the past several months, I’m ecstatic to proclaim that happiness does in fact still exist.

I know because I felt it in an immense way this past weekend.

I got married this past Saturday and I’ve still yet to land my feet back on earth after floating on cloud nine since then.

My wedding day was nothing short of wonderful.

I felt a level of happiness that can only be described as indescribable. To be overcome by that level of happiness was such a miracle in trying times like the one we’ve all been in throughout this pandemic. …

About

Lindsey (Lazarte) Carson

Part-time Writer & Full-time Digital Advertising Expert in Queens, New York. Avid runner & Plant Mom. I write about writing and life. lindseylazarte.com

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